It's Michael Rasmussen here. I want to tell
you about an email I got today from one
of my readers, because I think you can
learn an excellent success lesson from it.
It was a long email, but here was the
paragraph that really struck me:
"I've tried everything I know of to
try. Nothing works. I've been scammed
more times that I can count. People
have stolen my money and given me
nothing. After a few years of this, I
don't have any hope anymore. It's all a
big lie. I give up!"
Believe me, I know how that guy feels.
It doesn't seem that long ago that I felt
exactly the same way myself. To say that
was awful would be an understatement.
There really IS a lot of bad stuff out
there in the Internet marketing industry.
There really are junky products that
promise you the world and end up leaving
you frustrated, and poorer.
I won't say I've seen it all, because
nobody really has, but I've seen most of it.
But this person's problem is deeper than
that. His problem is negativity.
I know it's easy to be negative when you
get disappointed, or cheated, or misled.
We're emotional beings, so having some
negative feelings when those things happen
is natural.
If you want to succeed, though, you need
to get past negativity in a big way, and
you need to do it soon.
There's a LOT of fluff out there about
getting rid of negativity in your life.
There's a lot of fancy sounding stuff
about having a positive attitude, using
positive self-talk to improve your
results, and so on.
Just because some of that stuff is too
fluffy to be practical doesn't mean the
idea is nuts.
The simple fact is that you have a choice
in life. You can be positive, or you can
be negative. I won't claim that you always
have to be happy. That's crazy.
I will say, based on my own experience,
that if you want to succeed, you need to
be more positive than negative. But you
know, a positive attitude, while it's
important, can only take you so far.
It's vital to think positively, stay on
the bright side, not overreact to problems
and all the other stuff you've heard about
having a positive mental attitude.
But here's the big life lesson I learned
about positive thinking as I've built my
own business...
Progress trumps a sunny attitude.
That's a critically important lesson to
learn. You can try to have the best
attitude in the world, but if you're just
sitting there making no progress, you
won't be able to keep smiling for long.
What I had to do was figure out how to
keep up my positive attitude by actually
DOING something. Fortunately, it's not as
hard as you might think.
The first thing you need to do is to set
small, relatively short-term, achievable
goals.
Achievement helps you stay positive. It's
easy to prove this to yourself by picking
a very small project you need to do around
the house, maybe cleaning out a coat
closet or something like that.
Finish the job. It doesn't have to take
hours. It might take just a few minutes.
When you're done, I guarantee that your
sense of accomplishment will go up, and
you'll feel a little bit better about
yourself. That helps you stay positive.
The next thing to do is to attack your
goals with a certain mindset...treat any
setback as you work toward your goal as an
opportunity to learn.
All of us fail sometimes. We don't achieve
a goal, or it's harder than we thought, or
it takes more time than we thought. That's
life.
If you encounter a setback, recognize that
they're inevitable, they hurt...and
they're one hundred percent necessary if
you ever want to succeed at anything.
Don't just settle for being disappointed,
though. Treat the setback as a learning
opportunity.
I can tell you from my own business that
I've learned a ton from the mistakes I've
made, and from the road blocks I've run
into.
I remember back when I was just starting
out, I made so many mistakes with an
"opportunity" I came across that I was
about ready to give up on my dream to make
a living online.
When I look back on it, though, I learned
a TON from that. I dug into why it didn't
work. I reached out to others to try to
figure out what I did wrong. That one
experience taught me a huge amount about
running my own business, and some great
relationships came out of it as well.
The next thing to do while you're pursuing
your goals is to surround yourself with
positivity.
I know that sounds corny, but you need to
know something...negativity is like a
disease. If you expose yourself to it too
much, you'll probably get sick.
You need to fight that. Here are some
simple ways to do it:
* Read positive stuff. Read books about
success by Brian Tracy and others. Look at
what successful people did, and how they
handled failure and disappointment.
* Surround yourself with positive people.
One of the things that guy I told you
about earlier probably did NOT do is
surround himself with people who would
encourage him not to give up. You NEED to
do that. And sometimes (not all the time)
that might even mean not spending as much
time with a particular family member in
your life who drags you down.
* Keep a record of the goals you achieve.
I told you to have small, achievable goal.
Make sure they're measurable, too. Keep
track of what goals you achieved and when.
Whenever you get discouraged, pull out
that list and see how much you've done!
None of those things is that hard to do,
but if you don't actively do it, you can
find yourself spiraling down into
negativity in no time.
And the final thing you need to do is find
your own ways to stay positive.
This is different for everybody. It's
highly personal. Some people are naturally
more positive than others, so it might be
easier for them. But here are some simple
ways you might consider:
* Get an inspirational quotes calendar and
keep it in front of you all day. When you
get down, read the quote and it can perk
you up.
* Record affirming messages to yourself
when you're feeling very positive, then
listen to them when you're feeling
negative. That will feel a little awkward,
but nobody knows you like you do. You'll
tend to listen to yourself more than
anyone else.
* Find somebody to hold you accountable.
This could be a friend, a family member, a
religious leader...anybody who will agree
to do it. When you're feeling down, let
that person encourage you to start
thinking positively again.
Those are pretty easy to do, and they
really do work.
That said, remember that positive thinking
only works if you're telling yourself the
truth. If you're lying to yourself, it
won't help.
If you're telling yourself that you
succeed all the time, your brain knows
that's not true (it's definitely not true
for me!) so don't lie to yourself.
In the end, I believe positive thinking is
really about failing fast and learning
from your failures.
Failure is part of life. You'll make
mistakes, you'll be disappointed and not
everything will work out great all the time.
The mistake you can avoid is giving up hope
too soon, because you've let yourself slip
into negative thinking almost out of habit.
Focusing on the positive in the ways I've
suggested will help you stick to your
plans, achieve your goals and create the
online success you've been after for so long.
Have a great week!
All the best,
Michael Rasmussen
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